Lillian Rubin is currently 83 years of age. In a sense she has accomplished many goals she held when she was younger but continues to make new ones. Lillian Rubin wishes to live as fully as she always has, and to keep writing and working on her art. When her time to go to death comes, she wants to go peacefully knowing that she has lived a wonderful and productive life, filled with things she never dreamed of doing.
She certainly understands the importance of goals and doesn’t “know how anyone lives without goals”. She believes that the goals one sets for themselves should be worth accomplishing and meaningful. She does not believe that people should want to accomplish goals for the sole purpose of wealth, fame, or power. She believes that the journey to accomplishing a goal is almost more important, and certainly provides a great deal for personal growth. She says, “The need to stretch yourself, to find the internal discipline to meet the goal, the struggle to its accomplishment are what makes life living”.
Below is an excerpt from a book she has just finished that she wanted to share:
“Freud thought such feelings were a response to the guilt we experience over our good fortune. Perhaps so, but it surely isn’t that simple. For this is one of those times when winning and losing are opposite sides of the same coin. We finally achieve a long-sought goal -- raising the children, getting a promotion, paying off the mortgage, winning the gold (actually or metaphorically) -- and instead of the unambiguous joy of accomplishment, we feel something else, an emptiness where the goal lived, a sadness that suggests loss. And with it the emerging understanding that it’s not the destination that has given life its meaning and continuity but the journey itself ”
– Dr. Lillian B. Rubin
Below is an excerpt from a book she has just finished that she wanted to share:
“Freud thought such feelings were a response to the guilt we experience over our good fortune. Perhaps so, but it surely isn’t that simple. For this is one of those times when winning and losing are opposite sides of the same coin. We finally achieve a long-sought goal -- raising the children, getting a promotion, paying off the mortgage, winning the gold (actually or metaphorically) -- and instead of the unambiguous joy of accomplishment, we feel something else, an emptiness where the goal lived, a sadness that suggests loss. And with it the emerging understanding that it’s not the destination that has given life its meaning and continuity but the journey itself ”
– Dr. Lillian B. Rubin
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